DEVELOPMENT OF MY CHILD'S ORDERLINESS

HOW TO ASSIST MY CHILD TO BECOME MORE ORDER?

1. Dr.Montessori defines that the order within a child is brought out by every object around him. The order of the child is not just the inner order of behavior. It is the outer and inner order of the child in handling things, language, movement and expression.

2. Order is learned from the nature that has placed every thing on this Earth in a perfect manner. When we our self obey the great laws of nature the life will become more order. Please allow your child to observe, watch, and communicate with the outer surroundings which have great order.
Ex: I used to talk about the order in which the petals are perfectly arranged by Mother Nature in a flower to my students and they used to clap for that by them self.

3. From the period of cell division during pregnancy till our last breath we all follow order in every action.

Ex: breathing, circulatory movement of the blood, genetic expressions, animal behaviors, hunger, construction of buildings, performing arts, cooking, sun raise, dawn, dusk, seasons and so on.

4. It is our responsibility to make the home and school environments with perfect order without any compromise to seed the order for the absorbent mind from birth to 6 years.

EX: Ahana is a 2 year old child. Every day she wakes up and run to her bedroom window to see the crows making sound at dawn regularly. She has expressed that the crows wakes up to go out and eat by mornings. This is the order from the birds she has observed. Then we must accept the child will observe and practice the various orders from adults in the home and school.

5. Dr.Montessori says that order evolves through clear classification of materials and actions. Children will learn soon to classify the objects.
EX: 1. I have observed how to place the various books and news papers perfectly after mingling with by friend’s family when I was studying grade 4. The order of placing the books followed by his parents has made a great impact within me.

2. We can allow the child to classify the fruits and vegetables. After that we can wash them, wipe them with a cloth and show them to place in various compartments in the fridge.

6. The order followed in case of objects will create a great impact for love, neatness and behavior which includes the movement. Order will bring out the graceful gestures from the child.

Ex: It will be very nice to see very young children in Montessori schools carefully handling the objects with great care and love for the work which they do.

7. WHY WE NEED TO BE ORDERED?
* Infants come to the new world after the gestation period which is totally man made. It is very new and strange for them which is a great challenge for them to adapt. So it is the adult’s role to prepare the new living environment which expresses the order in every aspect of life just to make the infant confident and to adapt soon.

Ex: The room where the infant lives can follow the order of regularity in washing the bed sheets, changing pillow covers, regularity in feeding, mother’s timing in sleeping, food taking, bathing and so on. But it is very important that we are always talking slowly and softly about these to them from 1 month. I have seen people talking to the baby and changing the cradle cloth. They say that they are changing the cloth because it is wet and dirty and the child can wait for few minutes.

8. One who cares, sense of same touch, same way of holding, dressing, wrapping, feeding, light, sound around them, talking voice level, visits of elders inside the room makes the child to observe the great order of live and they feel much secured. Order helps the child to build the self confidence.

9. Order helps the child to learn naturally about the life.
Ex: In many traditional Indian families small children have understood that on certain occasions like festivals the mother or grand mother will be involved in various works preparing for the ritual and food and they never go and disturb them.

I have a 5 year old child who says that on every Friday he needs to wait for the breakfast because the mother will be performing a religious ritual. I asked whether he feels tired and he replied that it is nice to wait for the mother to come after offering the rituals to God.

10. Adults must follow the orderliness in the body gestures, cosmetics, dressing sense, language and many other things.
Ex: 7 year old Hema was very upset when she saw her mother in maxi dress suddenly one evening which she never wears in the family. She did not talk to her mother because the dress has created a barrier and she thought that her mother has changed. Then her mother understood Hema’s mind and spoke to her. Slowly Hema adjusted to mingle with her mother in that dress.
Some times we need to prepare the child to be ready for the change in order which will be new to the family. Other wise it will give the sense of insecurity to their mind.

So these are the real initial and basement stones for constructing the inner order within our children. All Montessori schools are liked by children just because there is a great order for every object which is making the children to see the beauty of the order. This law makes them to work and settle soon.

Thanking You!!!